I understand that there are children with behaviour problems, reading problems, speech problems, but most of the time these children are still babies, as in under seven years old, and have not been given time for them to develop these skills.

What is it with parents that want a mini Einstein, a perfect child? No child is perfect contrary to some parents beliefs and not all children develop at the same rate. Some will lack certain skills, normally developing later in their childhood. I personally do not believe there is such a thing as ADHD. Its a made up thing for doctors to give parents a reason for their little darling’s lack of concentration and misbehaviour. The most poignant thing that parents fail to realise is that they have no control over their children because, one they don’t discipline them, and two they feed them shit! Yes processed food for a child is like giving them shit. It does them no good except to load them with sugar and preservatives which turn them into little devils with no control over their behaviour.

Parents who declare their child has ADHD has fed them processed food and then will give them a drug to almost sedate them. If a doctor, one who actually had the guts to say to a parent, the only way to stop your child from being wild will be to give them heroine, the parent would throw their rattles out of their cots and declare that no way would they give them heroine. But because a doctor prescribes a drug with a pharmaceutical name (it always sounds so good to say the pharmaceutical name to their friends) for their child that this is OK. But that subsequently keeps them drugged throughout their childhood. Explain what is right about that?

Then you have the “celebraties” (probably known to the younger generation, because I’ve never heard of them) women in their 30’s, who declare they have ADHD and now they understand why they are how they are!!! FFS get real, you’re a grown up, an adult and if you can’t control yourself now you never will. You do not need a label and drugs to “make you better”. I have a niece in her late 20’s who decided after reading a load of gumph in magazines and online, that she must have ADHD. So she got herself diagnosed and doctors will diagnose because they prescribe drugs that pharmaceutical companies promote and bribe doctors to prescribe them. She declared to everyone in the family she has ADHD! Its a load of tosh. She actually came off the drugs because of the side effects. She’s a normal person, because normal is what you are, not what society deems you should be. We all have traits that let us down, the art is to control them most of the time. If we didn’t we wouldn’t be human.

Drugs are not the answer to labelling your child, nuturing, as in teaching your children the difference between right and wrong, controlling their behaviour and punishing when appropriate. No I do not mean corporal punishment, but time-out in their bedrooms, taking their favourite toy away for a short period, not letting them have sweets are the type of punishment that will have the most effect on a small child. Then of course there is what you give them to eat. Learn to cook fresh food, no processed food. Make having a MacDonald’s a treat once a month, if they are into pizzas, then make your own and add fresh toppings. Its easy. Once you cut out the fizzy drinks, food loaded with sugars and preservatives you’ll find a change in their behaviour and their concentration increases significantly.

I’m talking about ADHD, austim is a different thing completly and has a wide spectrum of behavioural differences. This must be diagnosed and parents with austic children learn specific words, actions and cajoling ways to appease the child. Children with austism can be normal in various ways, but have particular aversions. Some, unfortunately, have severe austism. There is no cure, but there are ways to alleviate certain things. But its a learning curve for parents, teachers, doctors.

So you parents who have decided that your child has ADHD, and want a diagnosis because if you do you also get your benefits increased, get off your arses and start to give your children the attention they crave and need. Get off your phones and look at the life you created and take responsibility for it. A child needs attention, needs someone to guide them, needs discipline, needs good healthy food and most of all needs respect and love. Don’t shout and swear at them when they misbehave, sit down and have a conversation with them. Actually, parents with children with supposedly ADHD, stop being so lazy!!!!